My husband and I have done this with two kids now. The only way we survived is working hybrid schedules. We each had a couple days a week where we worked from home and took care of the baby, and the other days we were in office and fully focused on work. And we also hit the point around 18 months with our first that even the hybrid arrangement was no longer working. Now that child is 3, in full time daycare and loves it! We’re working from home with our second child currently, but already have plans for him to start daycare at 18 months. It’s what’s best for them, and for my sanity as both a mother and an employee haha.
Thank you for being so honest! I’m 6months pregnant and trying to figure out how I’m going to balance motherhood and work — so knowing that others are working through it makes me feel less alone
You nailed what it feels like to be a work from home mom. I managed until my daughter was a little over two and by then I felt the same guilt you did with just getting by for the day. The stress of trying to time meetings with naps still haunts me, haha. Now she goes to daycare 3x a week at a place she loves and it’s insane the improvement it’s made in all of our lives.
You’re not alone! Finding and maintaining this balance is one of the great early challenges of parenthood. The lessons you learn will come in handy as Sebastian decides to level up his game too…
This is so real. I do not have children (yet or maybe ever tbd) but we’ve looked into the cost of child care and the monthly rate for the “good” daycare in my neighborhood is 40% more than my mortgage!! I am incredibly privileged that we *would* be able to afford that but I recognize that so so many people can’t. The system is beyond broken.
Not to mention that most childcare workers are paid barely above minimum wage so where is all that money even going?!
There's Brene Brown book (maybe it's Braving the Wilderness?) that talks about how sometimes you can give only 30% and that doesn't mean you can expect your partner to give the other 70% because they might only have 30% to give too. I'm glad you guys found someone who can help fill in the difference in way that is good for the whole family 🙂
My husband and I have done this with two kids now. The only way we survived is working hybrid schedules. We each had a couple days a week where we worked from home and took care of the baby, and the other days we were in office and fully focused on work. And we also hit the point around 18 months with our first that even the hybrid arrangement was no longer working. Now that child is 3, in full time daycare and loves it! We’re working from home with our second child currently, but already have plans for him to start daycare at 18 months. It’s what’s best for them, and for my sanity as both a mother and an employee haha.
Thank you for being so honest! I’m 6months pregnant and trying to figure out how I’m going to balance motherhood and work — so knowing that others are working through it makes me feel less alone
You nailed what it feels like to be a work from home mom. I managed until my daughter was a little over two and by then I felt the same guilt you did with just getting by for the day. The stress of trying to time meetings with naps still haunts me, haha. Now she goes to daycare 3x a week at a place she loves and it’s insane the improvement it’s made in all of our lives.
The fact that you made it that long is so amazing-- you are impressive!
You’re not alone! Finding and maintaining this balance is one of the great early challenges of parenthood. The lessons you learn will come in handy as Sebastian decides to level up his game too…
This is so real. I do not have children (yet or maybe ever tbd) but we’ve looked into the cost of child care and the monthly rate for the “good” daycare in my neighborhood is 40% more than my mortgage!! I am incredibly privileged that we *would* be able to afford that but I recognize that so so many people can’t. The system is beyond broken.
Not to mention that most childcare workers are paid barely above minimum wage so where is all that money even going?!
There's Brene Brown book (maybe it's Braving the Wilderness?) that talks about how sometimes you can give only 30% and that doesn't mean you can expect your partner to give the other 70% because they might only have 30% to give too. I'm glad you guys found someone who can help fill in the difference in way that is good for the whole family 🙂