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Alyssa Chrisope's avatar

As a person on the fence of having kids or not, your family’s journey has been such a great road map. I’m so proud and happy for you. Thank you for writing down these thoughts & putting them into the world.

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Jennifer's avatar

This is so lovely! I think it's only natural to wonder about decisions for which there's no doing it halfway. I've known for a long time that I don't want kids of my own, but in my early 40s, I still find myself going okay...you're really sure? Yes, these are the reasons. Okay, great, just checking, carry on.

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kel.writes's avatar

Thank you for sharing! I relate to this so much. My daughter is almost 2 and my husband and I are pretty sure we are one and done. Honestly feel like we gambled and won with our daughter so we gotta get out of the casino! For me, post partum was very tough and I don't think I can go through it again and I want to be the best and healthiest version of myself for my daughter, and I love feeling like myself again <3

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Kenzi Surkin's avatar

I love this so much. Thank you for sharing. I’m one of three and always wanted at least two, but I’m honestly pretty content with just one right now. And I’m not sure that’ll change. My sister and I are 5 years apart so I know a 5 year age gap is amazing, but like…. I’m not sure I want to go through everything again. And I kind of feel guilty about that? Which is wild but I love my little family of three!!!

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Morgan Rohbock's avatar

I appreciate how vulnerable this post especially as someone who's been on the fence about children for a decade. Thank you so much for voicing the things that are hard, Mack!

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Britta's avatar

this fence sitter is so thankful for you ❤️

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Kirsten Biehl's avatar

Ooof this was the perfect piece to read today. Thank you for summing up what is in my head so well! I keep going back and forth on having a second child but truly feel at peace with how my family looks right now. 🤍🤍 thanks for sharing your thoughts! Sebastian is so lucky to have amazing parents like you and your husband!

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Casey Kohlberg's avatar

Beautifully vulnerable my darling. Sebastian is lucky to have you as his mom !!!!!!

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Breanna Ruby's avatar

I just had my son in August and feel exactly the same way. I'm so glad to see this sort of experience highlighted because there is a lot of pressure to have siblings. At least in my situation we'd have to go through IVF to make it happen again so it would have to be a 100% intentional change of mind and commitment to make it happen!

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Marina 🌊's avatar

Such a wonderful and vulnerable publication to read. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I deeply needed someone’s else perspective ☺️

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Kristyn's avatar

So glad my pushing of the one-and-done agenda is working

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Tera Barrow's avatar

Needed this, thank you for sharing!

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